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Separation is hard enough. You shouldn't have to hold every detail in your head as well. There’s a stage of separation nobody really talks about. It’s the “I don’t even know what I’m doing yet” stage. Maybe you’re thinking about leaving. Maybe you’ve said the words but nothing has happened yet. Maybe you’re already knee-deep in lawyers, emails, finances, parenting arrangements, mediation dates and documents you don’t fully understand. And somewhere in the middle of all that,

There is so much peace in the things you decide not to do. I think there comes a point in life when you realise that much of the peace you find doesn’t come from what you add — but from what you remove. The message you don’t send because you’re protecting your peace. The door you stop opening because it keeps hurting you. The person you stop chasing because they don’t need to stay in your life. The expectation you finally let go of. The conversation you no longer need to have

The Loneliness You're Not Allowed to Talk About This week is Loneliness Awareness Week, and it's a reminder of something many people experience but rarely admit. We've been taught to think loneliness only happens to people who live alone or have no family or friends. But loneliness is far more complicated than that. You can feel lonely in a relationship. Lonely while raising children. Lonely in a busy workplace. Lonely after moving to a new city. Lonely after a separation, re

Birth Trauma Awareness Week prompted many important conversations this July, and it's a reminder that for many parents, the effects of birth trauma can last long after the birth itself. Let’s be honest: Birth isn't always the empowering, beautiful journey people like to post about. For many, it is one of the most frightening experiences of their lives. If you’ve been told to "just move on" because your body has healed and your baby is fine, you know exactly how heavy that sil

A choice between individual counselling and collaborative care I’m excited to share that I'm now consulting from Family Doctors Plus in Windsor, where emotional wellbeing is valued just as much as physical health. The choice is yours. Sometimes, counselling is exactly what you need — a private, one-on-one space to slow down, reflect and make sense of what you’re experiencing. A place where you can explore your thoughts and challenges at your own pace without needing to have e

In a mother’s mind, there’s a voice that never shuts up. You should wake up earlier. You’re already behind. The day hasn’t even started and you’ve failed it. You should be doing more before everyone wakes up. You should be one of those women who has routines, structure, discipline. Your child should sleep better. You’ve probably created this problem. You should fix it. Quickly. Quietly. Without complaining. You should be more patient. You should not feel annoyed. You wanted t

Where Do You Begin After Losing Everything That Felt Like You? When a relationship ends, it doesn’t just feel like you’ve lost a person. It feels like you’ve lost your routine. Your sense of belonging. Your shared language. Your identity. It’s disorienting in a way people don’t always talk about. Because you’re not just grieving them... you’re grieving the version of you that existed inside that relationship. So the question comes, raw and honest: Where do I even begin to reb

They don’t risk being the bad one. That would be too obvious. Too easy to call out. Instead… they make you carry it. Not all at once. Not in a way you can easily explain. But slowly, the tone changes. They get sharper. Colder. More dismissive. And before you really understand what’s happening, you don’t feel secure in the relationship anymore… you feel like you have to justify your place in it. Because they need a story. And in that story, you can’t be someone they’re betrayi

Here I am, eating breakfast, thinking I should eat less. Here I am, eating less, thinking I should be fasting. Here I am, fasting, thinking I should move my body. Here I am, working out, thinking I should push harder. Here I am, trying to push harder but I can’t. I’m tired. Here I am, trying to boost my energy, thinking I should quit coffee. Here I am, quitting coffee, thinking I should add supplements. Here I am, taking supplements, thinking I should sleep better. Here I am,

… Could It Be That Your Bank Account Is Reflecting What Feels Safe, Not What You Want? What if the problem isn’t that you’re not trying hard enough? What if it’s not just about strategy or saying the right affirmations? What if your income expands only to the level that your body actually feels safe holding? And if that’s true… why aren’t we talking about it? What If the Real Block Isn’t Your Mindset? You can repeat affirmations all day, but does your body actually believe th

You can eat the broccoli, hit the gym, and take the supplements, but if you’re still swallowing your boundaries to keep the peace, your body is paying the price. We’ve been sold a very clean version of health. Eat well. Move your body. Sleep enough. Drink water. Take your supplements. And yes… do all of that - It matters. But here’s the part that doesn’t get talked about enough: You can do everything “right” on paper and still feel exhausted, inflamed, disconnected, or unwell

Why Separateness is the Secret to Real Connection We start relationships with an unspoken hope: if we really love each other, our interests, timing, and priorities should just match up. We often think that being the same means we are secure. We often believe that sameness equals security... However, when that alignment breaks... when a partner chooses a hobby, a social circle, or a moment of space that doesn’t include you... it rarely feels neutral. Instead, it often lands in

There are moments in life that feel like everything is falling apart. Separation and divorce are often among the deepest of these. Not just because a relationship ends, but because so much of your identity, your future, and your sense of stability can feel like it’s shifting all at once. If you’re in this space, I want you to know something clearly: You are not alone in this. I see women move through this stage every day... and I’ve also walked this path myself. It can feel l

There are moments in life where instinct speaks long before the mind is ready to listen. A quiet tension. Exhaustion that doesn’t lift. Whether it’s burnout, grief, or your whole identity shifting, the old version of you is gone—and the new one feels like a stranger. In moments like this, logic is a luxury you can’t afford. Survival requires instinct The Trap of the "Neck Up" Life Most of us have been conditioned to live entirely "from the neck up." We get gold stars for bein

on Spotify https://open.spotify.com/episode/5wkJyEiWzsK5sVxfNDPdAY?si=Q8KflDbqTVSH29KBHQTfHQ There are quiet shifts in life that many of us experience. On the surface, our lives can look full — overflowing with responsibilities, family, work, and the constant demands of everyday life. But underneath, there can be a growing sense of disconnection, not just from others, but often from ourselves. In my recent conversation with the wonderful women behind Merri.Pause, Sam and Sal,

There are stages in life where thinking won’t save you. You can analyse it from every angle.Replay conversations. Try to “make sense” of it all. And still feel completely stuck. Because when life gets dark enough —logic isn’t what moves you forward. Instinct is. This Isn’t a Thinking Phase — It’s a Survival Phase Separation. Loss. Identity shifts.The moments where everything you knew no longer fits. This isn’t where you sit back and “figure it out.” This is where something de